☕️🌺 Whoever it may concern, it's always amazing to hear about someone who has been wronged their entire life, and the person who did it plays the victim while the real victim is portrayed as the perpetrator. I completely understand and empathize with anyone who has gone through such scrutiny. Being the youngest member of your family makes it even harder because everyone either disregards your opinions or treats you like a fool because they actually think you're too young to have an opinion. For as long as they can, they will keep you feeling like you are imprisoned in a maze-like, deranged mind game when there is no solid communication rather gaslighting your beliefs and ideas or simply for having a thought. I can understand why most runaways experience this as a daily reminder of their mental captivity. This is why most runaways seek refuge elsewhere, and believe me when I say that I was a runaway too. Not because I was disobedient or partied out of control like some rich brat on drugs. Far from it, it's typically because I didn't do a task to someone’s satisfaction and in the manner in which they desired to have it done.
You can't compromise with someone who is obsessive about a set of old concepts and traditional beliefs that aren't appropriate in your situation. It's even worse when they don't always get their way. They'll make up anything to try silence your resilience and in some cases your decision to remain silent in order to avoid confrontation. These are delicate subjects that, in my opinion, do not receive enough attention since they concern the moral standards connected within the family and basic obligations that are frequently abused through cultural norms and hierarchy. It’s important to understand one’s past experiences and hopefully learn something from them. If I could offer some advice to the younger generation, it would be to be emboldened in the choices you make. Never allow anyone to silence you. Remember to always respect your parents and elders. Ensure there’s a clear line of communication. That will only work if the adult in the family is versatile and open to understand. So find out who your folks are. We are all vetted differently because God made it so. No one has the right to change what you’re destined to bring to the world. Trust me when that line of communication is filtered one way. It’s all downhill from there. Then you will have a buffoon sucking the energy out of you. Even worse, having the audacity to demand an apology. Nobody's in my immediate circle or on God's green planet, would adhere to such nonsense since it's unhealthy to be enslaved by such evil.
Just because someone is older than you doesn't mean they are incapable of making mistakes. No one, and I mean no one, is perfect. In fact, the biggest mistakes are usually committed by the adults in charge of resolving the situation, because they will break every rule in the book to get what they want. Here’s the kicker: We’re no longer in Kansas, so please grow up and, for the love of God, find a different approach. A narcissist is usually unconcerned of your well-being except for what he can gain from you right then or later down the line. They will stop at nothing to help someone's life into a nightmare. And they've done one thing: turned their back on that person in moments of desperation. They weren't there to assist the individual when they most needed it. Despite all this, they're the first to cast shade and continue to express their dissatisfaction with your situation. Rather than being happy that the individual persevered on their own. That's exactly the primitive mind set of a babbling clown! But see, that is foretelling evidence and true motivation.
Today, such sentiments as respect are done as a gesture of goodwill, with educational wisdom and situational awareness, so that we are able to conduct ourselves through these experiences. Out of respect, we acknowledge traditions by each individual's age and rank in the family order of significance whenever there is a gathering. But time has changed, and we must learn to deal with it. We're adults now with different perspectives and ideas, such as that respect must be earned rather than given falsely due to ranking. You can't continue to act like an angry child as if people owe you something or an apology because you're emotionally underdeveloped. Let me put it in a different way. A normal person cannot simply respect an older street nudist because he is older. A gesture of goodwill respect or maybe empathy, compassion? The fact that no one has called your bullshit out of love doesn’t mean they’re not itching to tell you so to your face. I know that people hate or won’t ever admit when they’re wrong when you’re the head of a group, but the first step to forgiveness starts with you. So, I pledge to never mistreat another human being in the same way that I have been mistreated. So long as you stop being a scheming, lying, narcissistic douchebag.
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